i want my boyfriend to get rid of his dog

He had me promise that I would train a new one as well as I did my last. Never got bad until we moved into a new place together. There is always pee there when we come home from work and many times, he didnt even hit the pad, just big puddles on the floor around him. There were even ants on the floor from all the dog food that lays on the floor when they eat. He is not used to being yelled at all the time for not doing anything wrong and it is tearing me apart. So I am left with training the dog, feeding her, taking her out etc..and Training her has been very hard on me. relationships. !.my brother had a beautiful border collie which he allowed to get bored and she started to round up the neighbours children.he was going to get her put to sleep so I took her in.shes a fabulous dog and I love her to bits.my boyfriend hates her however and now doesnt want to move in with me because of the hair,the smell,the noise etcIm guttedreally devastated.what should I do? Im Italian, I react! There are no kill shelters, or maybe you can post pictures of the dog on social media and give him away to a loving home that will make the appropriate time to work on training him. She was so cute and sweet, and my boyfriend was really happy to have her. I dont get it, and even if he is spending time with me the dog just stands there and cries staring at him, so he always gets up and goes to he dog, leaving me. My dog doesnt go in the bedroom or the study, only the living room and the kitchen. Ridiculous!!! If your husband/boyfriend needs to get rid of the dog by considering the damage to material items in the home, for example, carpet, you can come up with an alternative to the Floor coverings, especially when you are moving to a new house and husband refuse to take the dog to a new house right away. We were the owners, the dogs did what we wanted no ifs ands or buts about it. I also hated it when the dog would sleep on my pillow or by my side of the bed and it was also joked about when I mentioned it. IT has to sleep in our room or else IT will bark and complain. I am at my wits end with this! When the relationship starts to go downhill, they cling to the dog more almost in a weird attempt at inducing jealousy. My biggest problem is the way she treats the animal. He even refers to her as his child. Recently, a neighbors dog broke into our yard and ripped one of my dogs up pretty badly; my spouse wouldnt let me take the dog to the vet for 3 days to see if her foreleg was broken or not, nor to stitch up the 3-in long, inch wide and half inch deep slash under one of her eyes. I limit the amount of time that I see one of my dear friends because I leave her home covered in animal fur. But, gradually, in no time, your dog will, On a beautiful sunny morning, you and your pooch go for a walk outside your house. I have never been a pet owner or pet lover as far as pets living with me is concerned but he has been a good dog for them for many years. It has been very sad at times when I miss my gf. So we decided to take action and ask our landlord to have her live with us, the landlord said yes. Hes drinking and now back to as he says dabbling in drugs. Im at the point of getting an apartment because at this point I dream of living in a home without animals. Climbing into a bed of pet fur stinking like a rank dog is disgusting! My boyfriend hates my dog and is really mean to him, I love his dog I just get tired and frustrated of him not respecting me. Simple. Something I think my partner can use wisely but chooses not to because he thinks him or the dog should t have to. i really dont know what to do. Create an allergy-free area in your home. An animal, is an animal. Some husbands/boyfriends decide to rehome their dogs as a result of being exhausted by endeavoring to provide sufficient exercise on a daily basis. Surely there are healthy ways to develop tolerance of some kind. Its really lonely when it seems the dog is all the company you have. Wow this post has really made me feel like I am not alone anymore with this issue! I can EMPATHIZE.. Its not healthy or normal, its almost a form of mental illness in itself like they have not been successful at having healthy, meaningful relationships with other humans, so they turn to dogs. im just not sure i can make it till hes no longer in the picture. What is the deal with sleeping with animals? I say someone who cant stand dog hair isnt a true dog lover. When I told my wife about it she told me to call them back to tell them that the dog is staying here (at home with three young children). Its the easy way out. I too will stay away from pet owners if it comes to that point again. I used to think, if the dog and I were drowning, who would he save? My wife is now 5 months pregnant and asked if I could leave one of my dogs with my parents cuz shes overwhelmed claiming one of my dogs is ruining the sodas. Has anyone else had these types of issues from dogs? Everything about her dog does nothing short of threaten to blow my fuse. He was there when I had a bad day, he was devoted and loved me, he was my baby. If your partner does not respect how you feel towards animal rearing, they certainly will respect you with other things as well. Your husband/boyfriend may want to rehome the dog because of Allergies. People dont stick their noses up or will leave if their partner makes a big emotional sacrifice for you. I would never ask my partner to sacrifice something incredibly important to them. they have killed children. But after expressing my feelings towards my partner and them being disregarded, I mostly dont want the dog on the bed because my feelings were tossed to the side. A partner does not need or rely upon you with its life. You, and those like you, anthropomorphize human feelings onto dogs. Besides an animal will die couple of years but marriage and your spouse will last forever. These poor butt-hurt people making butt-hurt comments, dont get it, but I do.. Im not a dog person, and I have to live with one now, and I totally get you. Then stop taking care of the dog and make your husband do everything until he follows through. His dog is emotionally unstable, obnoxious and all around out of control. No, asking him to find the dog a good home isnt asking too much at all. We tolerate to much. If you want to change the way you do something with your petsfor example, allowing Fido to sleep in the bed or taking more frequent walks with your pet and your partnertalk to your partner before taking the plunge rather than making a decision and expecting him or her to abide by it. I was scared. Everything was going great while it was just my girlfriend, her dog and myself. If you really dont have sufficient time to set aside your canine friend, check in your neighborhood. Lets talk about the very annoying fact that this dog has to be or sleep everywhere she does, especially her BED! You would not be the ah for getting rid of the bf. We have 3 dogs, the youngest being his. I have tried to tell my boyfriend how upset I feel that he doesnt respect how I feel, but he just said that I need to stop causing problems. Dogs behave the way we TRAIN them to behave. Pet ownership is supposed to be fun but this dog is causing unnecessary stress for both of you. I went through a very lonely period in my life after a break up from my then fiance and I got Nappy, a male shitzu, to help with my loneliness. Hi Dan, I totally understand your pain and could have written your post myself! You cant change him but you can change yourself. Mans worst friend: Average dog causes 2,000 family arguments in its lifetime. I realized that I only had patience pre pregnancy because I wanted to be a mother. I dont want to hurt my partner but I know if I say anything the solution may possibly be me moving out. Also that the new one would be just as spoiled as the last. That is why Im so frustrated about my situation. According to them, people who dont like dogs are not to be trusted. I have told him how I dont like them mouth breathing beside me when I am eating and he thinks I am mean. When I joined this forum, I realized that Im not alone and that there is actually a need for support groups over this issue. He had always put her in his 2nd truck (her dog house) when I was with him or shed be at his home when we went on dates. Of course we spoiled the crud out of them too. Sadly, our girlfriends do not know or are aware of how they are being played. I have to lint roll my entire outfit before I leave for work in the morning when i stay at his house. and our Frankly, it works for any breed. Which I dont mind playing sometimes. She has a severe case of separation anxiety, and because he leaves before me, I have to hear it because she will not shut up till shes done freaking out. Im a mess right now. Someone may like pets, and someone may not. Educate yourself with free content available on the internet and do most of the training by yourself. I consider giving them up {Ive had the pigs for over a year}, ignoring the nasty comments, or moving {but not sure I can afford another house and this home is 50% mine and Ive put money into it. } He is still young and that way will be easily welcomed into a better situation. I totally agree with you! Dog stays off the furniture, gets her own doggie bed for the bedroom, and he sweeps everyday. All I want and preach to other people is compromise and Im still somewhere trying to find that. You are not crazy!!! For example, just the other night he calls her to come back 9 times and then says good girl. And btw, they never get brushed, nails clipped, no vaccinations, no anti flea treatments or whatever, and no showers. A poorly trained dog or aggressive cat is frustrating to everyone, but the person who brought the pet into the relationship is sometimes more sympathetic toand defensive aboutthe pet. Its just not a fun, loving dog unless she is around. In my WILDEST imagination, I never thought that a relationship could be so incredibly impacted by ANIMALS, or think that someone would put me 2nd, under their dogs. If I went next door and saw another woman and she gave me a good meal, I wouldnt suddenly be in love with her and tell my girlfriend its over. we lived together for a month, and her daughters 14 year old cat is obviously traumatized by the daughters constant absence. Thanks. i said look ive tried to learn to live with him..im on edge constantly from watching him like a hawk around the baby..ive exhausted myself trying to get you to see that im not just being mean ..im concerned for my baby and for the baby on the way there is no way in hell i can deal with a newborn and that dog..but all that aside i just wanted to sleep without him keeping me up all night for once and cuddle my husbandhe said well go lay down where you can sleep then babei was floored..basically hes saying my concerns and needs and wants are not important at all to him..and im second to his dogi got upset and cried and said some things i didnt mean..but hell who wouldnt at that point.he looked at me hateful as could be with the dog laid in my spot all up on his side and said if you dont wana sleep with the dog then get the hell out of the roomwhat do i even say or do anymore? And we did. Honestly, if someone came to me right now and wanted to take him off our hands, we wouldnt object. So while I totally agree with you and Bubbly, I feel like this is going to backfire on me. I wish that I could come up with a solution. It is one of the excellent ways to keep your dog mentally stimulated throughout the day, making a well-behaved dog. They dont love like humans and its unhealthy for both dog and owner to be apart of that carp. Improving my relationship and building it is already work so I do not need a dog who will not listen and act out. My husband is very upset and thinks it is a stupid idea. I hate them. I get infuriated thinking about it. And he was totally inflexible by saying that he wouldnt give up sleeping with his precious Mesa for anything. They need our attention just as well. I will take her out to walk for 30 minutes, come inside and she uses the bathroom all over the house. There are so many people in the world who actually LIKE dogs, it is pointless to waste time on ones who dont. Let me get to it. I refuse to allow some brat of an animal ruin things that I have worked hard and paid for. He asked me to just become okay with fur. I cant believe we are having problems over a dog :(. I find I get up in the morning and I am happy. Maybe you chose the wrong woman to have a puppy with. I suffer from asthma (maybe cats.. idk yet) and it can be life threatening yet these animal lovers feel the pets come before human family. I dont think anyone willingly lets their dog stay in the bed while having sex with their partner I do agree that if the dog is taking up too much space, compromise is in order. We came into the marriage my spouse knowing that I do not like animals. its her baby and thats how theyve always been. He is an animal and should not hold precedence over your boyfriend. A dog can never give you what a baby can and people annoy the crap out of me when they say this. I cant continue to live in the house with this dog and his behavior. Enough to break the marriage? ive expressed my concern, and i get shut down, immediately, with her constantly defending him. I am greatful that many people think like myself and know that animals are not people. Neither dog has any health problems, though they make frequent trips to a very expensive vet who sells them expensive dry-food to mix in with the custom cooked meat dishes. When dogs misbehave its usually the owners fault. I gently nudged it off, because there werent room for the two of us, and it attacked me. If you can just hang in there, things will probably get a whole lot better! If you have a high-energy canine friend that seeks numerous amount of exercises on a daily basis, with or without intention, it will play rough with your kids. Doesnt take much effort. Wouldnt you have seen it if you stayed for the weekend at his place? (chihuahuas) those dogs are little demons that got sent to earth. I had pets all my life. Lady your dog is leading your life. I remember not too long after we had out child, one night she came back out 5 times in a 10-15 minute period to tell the dog good night and I love you. I clean them up, he doesnt have to even be bothered with it. He has nearly become my dog, she just cuddles him. My husband is constantly annoyed with our pets. Ill give you the benefit of the doubt and hope that there is a legitimate reason against him. Its called proper training and reminding the dog that they are a dog and not a human. I DISAGREE.. why would you allow your pet to ruin expensive stuff that did not belong to you and pee everywhere? If the dog is just still a puppy, forgiveness can be given. My mom use to say to me, Dont let that dog ruin your marriage! News Flash: its not the dog. I dont want to be a police officer in my own house and I dont want to build a strong foundation for our married life together. Could her dogs be spreading bacteria or viruses to my wife? And I say that as an animal lover, and have had animals my entire life! His cat is out co control- Pees and poop outside the litter box and begs all day for food. We had discussed very thoroughly prior to living together that the house will need to be cleaned often and upkept to minimize as much as possible the hair. I have spoken to her many times about my frustrations but she says I am overreacting and insensitive. I keep joking saying I want to get rid of her and he hows back hell get rid of me but Im partially not joking. My partner and I are always arguing over my dog. I just begged for her to live and promised that even if she was permanently disabled , I would care for her kindly as long as she lived.For another 3-4 days she was still retarded. 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