my ex narcissist hasn't contacted me

That's exactly what my histrionic disordered ex said to me. He really does seem to be a mix of both. I know what it is. What a blessing to have found this site.I was under the spell of a narc for about 10yrs.everything I knew and loved about myself was destroyed by this Man. I can relate to your concerns because I share a son with my Ex. I love having someone new to tell my stories to, to express my opinions, and to share my profound theories and beliefs about the important things in life. He worked on me till he boke me . He has found another source of supply for himself 2. My ex wants me to do the same and I refuse. Even when things are good you feel like you are standing on quicksand. and we can both tell our sides to the story. You have to find a way to get your own closure. Ellen, Anon is absolutely correct. I accept that I will never be in a romantic relationship with him again and my new relationship feels steady, good, and normal. Donald Trump, Roger Stone, and Associates have a better chance of success. Confirm you had be eloquent enough and hope is nana is better.. Type 2: they manipulate knowingly and enjoy it. Your email address will not be published. Its like hes incapable of admitting wrongdoing. I have no doubt you will one day hear a similar story with this BPD girl and the new supply. When we meet over video chat, he mentions Michel Simon, the "wonderful French actor from the Thirties and Forties" who starred i I only mention this in order to highlight the fact that everything he claimed to love about me and find in common with himself are now the things he hates and denigrates. It was a crazy roller coaster. they were weeping for validation of their love), I decided their words and action no longer hold much weight. But the higher i fly the deeper and harder i fall. You had a child You are Responsible for said child You know this is a technological age so dont be bullied into communicating by phone in person or on transfers etc! They often cannot function in even simple, daily tasks. Her mom and I have let her know she is not alone and this is HIS problem. I will survive. Things that remind my of him. for me, it now has taken on a hollow feeling, he is doing it but only because he doesnt want his charade to end and everyone find out about his true persona as well as not have to split assets with me (cheaper to keep her) and I think he is a coward -wants out but just cant be the bad guy: NEWS FLASH HUSBAND-YOU ARE THE BAD GUY! Plus, there is a disorder, that manifests as BPD psychopathy, but is not. Not intentionally, just when you are child growing up in that, that is all you know and that is your comfort zone, on a nearly subconscious level. Sad really. My heart goes out to you. But he is reportedly nowhere to be found. Never happy, always thinking of nobody else but themselves. I have an intervention order out on him due to physical abuse, is this something he may ignore and still try to contact me? When Im in this situation due to school meetings, etc., I view my Ex as a Kindergartener who simply cannot help himself. Usually they are very emotional people, but their emotion is so great, that they find it hard to see where you are coming from simply because they are constantly dealing with their own inner turmoil. Its maddening. We do that subconsciously in order to correct the unworthy feelings we had as a child, but only, that never happens with a narcissist. You should text or call him once you have a good reason to do it. When a narcissists ex moves on and finds true and lasting happiness, the narcissist is furious. But the actual discovery of an affair (long term plus who knows what else) and this last year of attempting to reusitate my marriage, has allowed me to see him and his behaviors much clearer than before. In my case, I realized I needed to put an end to the relationship a lot sooner than I did. Another thing I forgot! Think, after all he has said and done why give him the right to have access to any part of you and your life? Until then I never knew that such a disorder even existed, let alone the effects on my thought and actions. Remember, they start our trying to be what you want and then show their true colors over time. I didnt respond; I wanted to throw up! -Passionate and deep in the bedroom Looking back at my relationship with the N, I realized there were red flags from the beginning. Over two weeks ago I found the courage to tell him through the phone that I needed distance from him and exist by myself (not blaming him for anything as narcissist hate that), and am moving out of the house he was paying for.and even if I am extremely limited financially and i do not have a car for the moment. 3. When she was depressed or on a come down, she would agree. He is very prideful too so I thought I would not hear from him either. He wont even consider that he has ANY issues. its all so very sad. BAhahaha! So I met with him on Monday. I feel like I want to give her a taste of her own medicine but at the same time I want her to realize her mistakes and do something about it in the hopes there could be hope for herbut I cant do that because its part my fault for allowing this to happen and not acting sooner . Its unsettling as well as infuriating. Weve both defriended him on all our social networks. But yet i do. This morning I was talking about inequality issues with a school setting, and some research I thought would apply. He begged and apologized told me itll never happen again and he loves me and wants to come home I fell for it. But everywhere i go there is something thats remainds me of or laughter, our same thinking and taste of everything. How can he go from being a highly sexual man who loves material posessions, to a man who says he doesnt care if he loses everything and no sex with new girl yet, which I find strange in itself. The narcissistic sociopathic traits are from genetic factors, as I never was devoid of attention, had a happy life, and no trauma. It almost seemed like he wanted to punish me and treat me like I didnt matter anymore (and made sure I noticed). I cant make you happy. And then text message that i still want to have peace with another. As such, you only have yourself to look out for. Best yet, she seemed to adore me, and always talked about how gorgeous I was and what an amazing guy I am, blah, blah, blah, I dont know anything about the other guy except that she used to tell me how nice of a guy he is. I am being troubled by the narcissist in this exact way I was very surprised to find a message of his in my email system from 01/01/15 and today a week later a text from his number repeating his wish to make a fresh start, Discussing this with some trusted others one of whom commented that this is a good thing, that I should accept this olive branch then they go one to admonish me for saying something along the lines of not in a million years placing me in the wrong and on the defencive you really cant win with these people can you. But today and yesterday i miss him. Im entering the no contact phase but still I want to talk to him. Be safe and contact a Domestic Violence Shelter too, worst thing is when they know youre going to leave they act all nice loving even apologizing again. Im dealing with that now. Thank you. There are plenty of normal, healthy friendships you can seek out, and I would suggest you do that. Im here to tell you the one wayhow to know if a narcissist is finished with you. Poor thing..shell learn soon enough. NEXT, I am a small woman and live on my ownnobody. Just give it time. I was very indifferent to the information provided and proceeded to tell her I am returning to finalise my divorce and settlement as thisis what happens when a marriage breaks down. NO ONE he knows has seen me, I dont go places I know he goes to, I avoid certain roads at certain times of the day, etc. No contact. Eden, I had the same type of story he wasnt physically abusive all the time and also one hit was enough (Im not a fighter) to make me cry I stayed and endured everything until last time he punched me in the eye, almost had to go to the hospital he cried then said was sorry then said will change he behave less than a week then he started to argue with me again over nothing had to move out, puta restraining order and STILL wanted to stat with me. I finish my call then I text himyes?. Oh, and this girl clearly sleeps around a lot. Apparently not going to each other houses, she lives with some guy. We talked he told me he would change . Underestimating the narcissist. Mature people can break up, unblock and still be in a fairly good term with their ex. Thanks Jill. Wow! It explained all the craziness I couldnt understand about our relationship. Like what was said above, men are generally taught to remain strong and cover their feelings more often, which is why men dont post as much. Mine was of all things a He doesnt know how NOT to lie, seek attention (va social media) and manipulate. One thing that helped me was that I kept journals, and every now and then when Im reading through them, I remember all the hateful, evil, and cruel things he did and said to me. I am sane enough to get away from him and no longer put up with his narcissistic, messed up personality. I sought therapy for the first time in my entire life after I left my N. I felt like I was losing my mind! One month of No Contact and my ex hasn't contacted me yet. Anyway, you read the story. Im sure he only said it was a joke because he was trying to save his ego. Reading Suggestion: How to Piss Off a Narcissist? . He denies the romantic, loving things and promises he made just as much as he denies being inconsiderate, disrespectful and insulting. Still, the deeds were the deeds. If the other parent is a demon then we have a moral obligation to let our kids know the truth. The cycle of emotional and verbal abuse, the vicious cycle of discard and demeaning of people is atrocious. I have a question I understand everything in your post and agree, but why would the narcissit ex contact you again when they have a new girlfriend who clearly supplies them of what He wants and worshipps him. Learn a new skill And repeat what you have already said if you feel you have to reply. -Responding positively to their partners mirroring In hindsight, its really quite juvenile, isnt it? Think about that before you break NC. Mine is such a stereotypical story its incredible. The benign BPD have nothing to do with manipulation etc. Should I call him, meet with him? The police came and he flat out lied and omitted the part about him hitting me, only told them I hit him, and they ended up taking ME to jail for battery because at some point between me calling the police and them showing up there, HE scratched his own face and told them I did that when I hit him. Rod thanks for your input. I wanted to be sure, he gets what I have to say. She told me the very same thing happened to her and she could not make herself forgive after this, my ex says she is full of shit, because he went to her for advice on marriage and she obviously had different intentions. I finally get a text i am with kristen now she is loyal i dont need you your full of drama if you text me again i will get you for phone harrassment i will call the cops . So, you know better about your situation. I bet lots of other women on this site would say the same thing to you. This is just out of pure curiosity, but lets say that I decided not to pursue the money and just let things be. I still find myself missing her quite often, but I dont want to make it look like I am trying to give this woman credit by any means. That was almost two years ago, and we never saw each other, spoke, or texted again. Understand that I was replying specifically to Matt. Then we agree to have a LAT relation But he never visit me in my new home. The love letter is so true thanjs for writing it up plainly. Not explanation. Especially ones geared toward emotional healing. And that the whole points. I never thought a male so complicated could exist. Get better at playing his game than he is. After three days he was gone. I dont think it is necessarily a reflection of there being more male narcs (although statistics say there are?) Im not going to lie, for the first time in a long time, i actually felt that love and heartbreak feeling when thinking about never seeing and talking to her again. December 20th was the final day NO CONTACT since then (from me) I thought it was really over everyone said he has gone away. Get out while youre still sane. Also, if you had ever mentioned to him that you thought he was too materialistic or too sexual then the first thing he wants to do is rub it in your face how he has changed for the new supply. There is also a fear of what comes next when they arent returning as expected because we dont know who we are anymore without the narcissist in our lives. I think too many people take this dont demonize the other parent bit too far. We left without saying goodbye. We separated for 7 months and he befriended a woman I later found out he was spending tiime with her at her home. Its only in a weak moment when he has some contact with his heart that he contacts you. In the meantime he had moved in with another friend who like me had believed his sob story about Kym throwing him out and that he was a the victim. I feel like i have to train for a mental fight. She even manipulated situations for me to get mad at her in public so everyone thought i was crazy for getting mad. Never had better. Also, although he has new supply, he wants to keep you hooked because to him, you are considered his property and he doesnt want you going off with someone else because that would likely mean he no longer has power over you. The was hallucinating, so very confused. My love and prayers to all in a similar situation. Then i wrote angree letters and did not hear from him till now. Friend tells me there was a few of ex narcs buddies that saw him with my car; in fact, friend knows some of the same people but ex didnt know this was my friend. What woman would fall for that coming from a married man with two small children?? It was not until she text me that her money had come in and she would be sending me the money out ASAP, that she went dormant all of a sudden. I just been able to come out of my house in months and hes playing mind games while I take the high road. Go inward. After crying, talking, and crying a lot more, he left, and I closed the door behind him. You can find street hookers with better hearts than your most recent ex. Maybe they're curious as to how you're doing or maybe they want to make you jealous. Even when you know what you should do, doesnt always make it easy. You're still waiting on him! Thank you for this.. Dear Ellen, Just when I think Im good, here he comes. Our family had never fallen out until Dad died. I hate this "man". It pissed him off enough to remove me from his list of contacts (I then blocked him completely so that he could no longer look me up). -A memory loss as to the actual happenings being discussed I just think he knows everything I do for him and no one else will be that way what do you think. So, O sent him a mail as well as a letter. Kim, I wanted to get your opinion on something. Hes really nice and sweet when he wanted to be, but now, is like a completely difference person took over him. Cara, Im sorry for all the sorrow youve experienced. It was like his self had fractured (hindsights 20/20)! I came across this at a time where I so desperately needed it. His parents, siblings and children have nothing to do with him. When theyre with a group of friends, the narcissists might say something like, wow, I cant believe how relaxed I feel now that me and Terri are not together. Pictures of them in her bed and how much of a man he was between the sheets. He is gone. He said that thats the way he is, that is his personality and I accepted him for who he is. Their ex will be broken-hearted, they wont understand why they were dumped, and theyll be eagerly waiting for the narcissist to call so they can get back together. I honestly NEVER want to see him again, NEVER speak to him again, even pretend I NEVER even met him! He wanted just me etc. He helpt me get some furniture i bought, and with putting a closed together. A few months later I stumbled upon narcissism online, and all the behavior fell into place. It wouldnt surprise me if hes already doing that now. One wonders too how this fresh start would manifest for his little group of facilitating sidekicks maybe 4 or 5 other people who have acted more or less abusively in tandem with the narcissist would the fresh start to be exclusively with the narcissist or with this whole team is his offer the result of some consensus between these people that they all agree they have acted abusively and they are somehow sorry and wish to help repair the damage. So, he probably has no intentions of moving in with her, it is all a ploy to keep me guessing, right?? Im done with her now. I was sleeping there for two nights. After days of intense greeve and tears mostly for the big quetions of this relation.. he came and told me he has something with a man. He left me for someone else. I dont believe I have a great future and ith leins o my house bcuz he wouldnt work and I wasbdisqbled. I know the danger of having Contact which is that all of the things listed above may be tucked away and the cycle could repeat itself. I never did nothing but fallin love with a man who lied to me . Vincent Cassel: 'Every Time A Man Does Something Wrong Now, He's A Pervert Manipulator Narcissist' - Read online for free. Even though, I dont have time right now to go through RodMans comment, here are my thoughts. But i wont bite the apple again. Disbelieve hurt, angry, could eat or sleep and had no strenght to go even to the toilet. Read Dr. George K. Simon! Explain to your attorney yes what happened but what you will and wont allow for your childs sake tug of war with a little one will be felt by little one but informing other adults in your circle your support system what you want for your Its only temporary.. Just when i get better as time went on. He was married before, and for what he tells me he left his ex wife because he was bored and she was whiny, she didnt like to do anything, etc He also told me he had an affair with his (then) best friends wife for 3 months. The next day, Sunday, Im sitting on my laptop with my phone on the arm of my chair and it goes off; I look at itits the ex. He is just an empty shell. I have learned SO much. She is a handbook case Histrionic. Of course, there is still a lot to doubt and discuss. In September of last year and six months after disappearing he sent me an e-mail saying he was happy for me, alluding to being disappointed by Paris, saying that I should come see him if I was hesitating on my return to Australia. He lost. It honestly blows my mind how charming he can be when he wants, yet so hurtful and destructive when he wants. Im good, here he comes could eat or sleep and had no strenght to go to... She lives with some guy met him her bed and how much of a man who lied to.. 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