open letter from someone with bpd

I've been blamed by doctors who put me on these meds that I'm on too manyand the last one (after I discussed BPD he's a complete idiot and asked *me* what the therapy "DBT" was called) said to me, "You have a serious personality problem", in response to me answering how I'd been doing. Hope you are well! It just doesnt come naturally to us. He said many times that he wanted to show me love and treat me right but he thinks that his selfishness and pride are preventing him to do so. Can you get it without having a BPD Dx on your file? It's all chaos. I truly hope you have connected with resources to support you and have had a chance to learn more about DBT! A common call to the SANE Helpline often goes like this: 'I think my partner, daughter or son has borderline personality disorder (BPD) and I feel like I have to walk on eggshells around them. Whatever. And explains how the "non-BPD" can support and understand those who are suffering from the disorder. Privacy Our brains literally disconnect, and our thoughts go somewhere else, as our brains are trying to protect us from additional emotional trauma. But he has so little insight. But what the BPD sees as abandonment, we see as self care (which ironically is one of the suggestions handed down in this open letter). I've been told I would always be this way, I would always be Borderline, always end up messing up my life, always needing care for my psycological issues. An Open Letter From Myself, With BPD, To My Loved Ones. However, looking back, all the signs were there, but I just didn't see them. Honestly, I don't think this letter is helpful, or should have been addressed to the children of BPD's for a few reasons. Mick Finnegan, a 37-year-old Dubliner diagnosed with BPD, also believes the condition was rooted in his childhood. It is very well written and to the point. Someone with BPD might feel fine one second and then really angry or upset the next. It's sort of comforting that she said that, because it confirms that I probably finally have the right diagnosis. One must only have 5 symptoms out of 9 to qualify for a diagnosis, and the combinations of those 5-9 are seemingly endless. It will be a long road, but she will need the support of her family. You know what, I wouldn't have been able to write it 6 years ago. While she was packing one day I played some Mavericks, southwestern country music I thought she would enjoy because that's where she is from. The Perks of Being a Borderline Resilient, Got BPD? I am generally very good at keeping my head, but every now and then I can behave a bit more extremely, and those are the worst incidents. I have to also find a doctor. That can make you act erratically. I have no nearby friends. This is an open letter to anyone willing and/or needing to listen. Your email address will not be published. He is desperate I know. Erica shares her story of being diagnosed at 18 and opening up about living with BPD. Now I don't know what I am. After reading this letter i feel that i myself wrote most of it. When I was told what it was, I went home and researched everything I could about it. Very occasionally, though (It just happened three nights ago for the 4th time in our 15-month relationship), I'll lose my own head and say some terse and unfair things. I shouldn't have apologised, and this time I won't. Perhaps he still loves me and he still wants to try (I think he's been having a breakdown anyway, due to his father being very ill and the chance he'll be homeless when his dad dies). and "WE" your partners love you, even if today, this week, this month, this year, you hate "US"! and constructing a gulf of silent hostility between us as a way to soothe the slashed open scars of previous . I was diagnosed with BPD about seven years ago. I have subjected myself to 2 abusive relationships, and have 2 children by both of my abusers. She blames our divorce completely on me, taking no responsibility at all. It's nice to hear this from a BPD perspective. This letter really hits hard. A trigger is something that sets off in our minds a past traumatic event or causes us to have distressing thoughts. I accept the consequences of my actions and how they have affected you, I didnt realize then how much it affected me too. Anyway, other programs in the area (I was without work for awhile) want NOTHING to do with mental health issues. Thankyou, once again, for putting your heart and soul open for us to share.xx. I have absolutely no desire to go since my mother, who is one of my past abusers will be there , and I would rather slit my wrists then be around her because she triggers me CONSTANTLY and seems to enjoy doing so Please help me. All in all today I am successfull in all that I set my mind on to do. Research has focused on the psychopathological tendencies of children whose I thought life was hopeless and i would always feel the way i do. She emailed me later saying that it was passive aggressive behavior and that she "gets it" I am the one who ended it. It takes even more work when there But its not your fault. My ex has BDP. I hope your husband is able to open his heart and read the letter. My wife was diagnosed with BPD a number of years ago and it's been more of a battle for her than for me. You remember in high school those kids who went from liking rock music to pop to goth, all to fit in with a group dressing like them, styling their hair like them, using the same mannerisms? I want you to know that despite the poor choices, the exhaustion and what youve seen as laziness, I have loved you through it. I figured it out, but only through trial, error, therapy, a good online support group and a lot of introspection and self-care on my part. 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Mahari, a Canadian woman and Life Coach now 52 years old, who recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder 14 years ago writes an open letter to all who have been, as she was at the age of 19, diagnosed with BPD. i love your article and i wish that i was that far ahead; we are given just one year of dbt then we get on with it alone; there may be a graduate group but it will only be every month or two for a few hours and no therapy; my dbt ended about a month ago and far from moving on i am regressing and i feel that i have never done it at all; i would so like to be able to see things as you do but it looks very unlikely that i ever will; i would say give thanks every day for what you have been given and spare a thought and maybe a prayer for those of us who are still in the pits and stuggling; one year is just not enough to make the skills part of ones life. He is aware of his disorder and I saw him fought many times. For her . Dear Friends, Family Members, Lovers, Ex-lovers, Coworkers, Children, and others of those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder. In the past when she gets to busy she ends up in the hospital. UPDATE: A video version of this letter, com, plete with narration and text, is now available for viewing and sharing by clicking, https://www.my-borderline-personality-disorder.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/12/healing-from-bpd-e1577900769964.jpg, An Open Letter From Those of Us With Borderline Personality Disorder. I am sorry you had to grow up too soon. I was told that I have BPD, and I am in denial of my diagnosis. I suffered massive trauma throughout my life but particularly when i was 16 years old. This is the most dreaded Dx to come across according to my colleaguesif it was so bad, why would it be my problem? It was good to find your site. I need them to but as an outcast to society, I dont see it. One must only have 5 symptoms out of 9 to qualify for a diagnosis, and the combinations of those 5-9 are seemingly endless. You are toxic. It felt as though my very real issues were being labelled as some sort of 'mood swing'. Wow is all I can say!!! However, when they are presented in a manner as if the struggle somehow evaporates at the end is not logical, because life is never so linear. Improve the Moment (and Your Life) with DBT, Interpersonal Effectiveness: DBT Skills at Work. But I'm learning how to deal with it, thanks in part to resources such as this open letter. Thanks for writing this. I was left out of the loop as to her condition and was very depressed. I quit writing. And a couple days ago I put my guitar away and said, Im done.. You can see glimpses and more and more of who that person really is over time, if you dont give up. It sounds like your Mom cares to find out what's happening for you. Through Dialectical Behavior Therapy, we can learn how to regulate our emotions so that we do not become out of control. I thought we would be okay, but then something I did angered her. You are a strong person for working so hard to heal yourself. Also, I was a VERY positive person just a few years agoI was even called a Pollyanna! After a few hours he will then realize the hurt he caused me and then he'd apologize. As the friend of someone with BPD, it's helpful to be as consistent as possible with what you say and do. She has told me when she gets this sense of impending doom in the past is when she ends up in the hospital, which she has made it over a year with out being hospitalized. I myself work in the mental health field and see her mental health declining. My girlfriend has BPD, and I've been at my wits' end, not knowing how to deal with it. I can tell you, from personal experience, that working on this illness through DBT is worth the fight. I have a wife and a Daughter who both have BPD wanting to die and both are in Psych Wards. There is no one in this area who practices DBT. Their moods are so intense that they interfere with everyday life. 4. The relationship is different, the experiences are different, and the harm caused is different. The letter and all the post did help me a little tonight tho. Thank you for all you honesty and compassion. Keep up all the good work here! By sharing your experience, you can let others know that they are not alone. The hardest thing about tonight's episode is that I don't know how long it will take for her to recover. People with BPD traits often have "object permanence" issues - "out of sight is out of mind". DUHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. Recovery happened through a commitment to DBT. . This is known as PTSD, and it happens to a lot of us, too.). Why is BPD hard to diagnose and really not curable? Spot on insight!! Perhaps some don't even reach that point. I tried to cheer her up and I thought we ended the evening on amiable terms. I guess I'm not doing that well enough. Talk therapy is the main treatment for BPD. Not what i wanted but almost lost all since of myself. Main Subjects:Caring for Someone with BPD,Events,Getting Help,Living with BPD,Research,BPD in the Media, Other Subjects: Advocacy, BPD Awareness Week, Couples and Families, Family Connections Course,National BPD Conference, New Member, Sanctuary Meetings, Treatment, Validation, What is BPD. I can't help it. I feel like they deserve better and that I have failed miserably. An Open Letter From those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder: Dear Friends, Family Members, Lovers, Ex-lovers, Coworkers, Children, and others of those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder, You may be frustrated, feeling helpless, and ready to give up. But please know that at the very same time that we are pushing you away with our words or behavior, we also desperately hope that you will not leave us or abandon us in our time of despair and desperation. Symptoms of borderline personality disorder (BPD) at work can vary, including the different ways that these symptoms can affect your job performance and ability to "fit in" with your coworkers. There, youll also find thoughts and questions by our community. Caring about someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) tosses you on a roller coaster ride from being loved and lauded to abandoned and bashed. Debbie, Hi Damask thank you so much for taking the time to write such a beautiful comment. Borderlines do not know how to cope with intimacy - it leaves them feeling engulfed. I just want to add another thank you for writing this. clearly point to BPD. So when a parent exhibits BPD symptoms, and the child becomes the target of these behaviors, it impacts who they are and who they will become. I hope we can be friends in time and partners in raising our son. I have reached out several times over the years and nothing except mean posts on facebook that make me cry for months. I find it so hard to put into words my struggles but you have done it perfectly. I miss you all and us so much. Again this is NOT your fault. It's hard not to appear defensive when she is asking for explanations as to why I've done things. Who would want ME? Were not saying its right. We can work through this destructive pattern and learn how to be healthier in the context of relationships. Thank you. Dave M everything that you wrote is what I'm going through at the moment. She's 30 years old. Debbie, Thank you so much for commenting. I have lost my best friend and the love of my life to untreated bpd and have been in agony while she instantly moved on. My look on life was empty and my selfimage was terrible. symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder, Impulsivity and Borderline Personality Disorder, Borderline Personality Recovery: What It Can Look Like. She has left several times before, but this time I don't see a reunion. This post is just to give you an idea of the typical suffering and thoughts those of us with BPD have. I now am 49 and still have anger issues with myself but no selfharming. They actively seek to control the perception of BPD in the same exact way they try to control how they are perceived as individuals. I feel like he doesn't understand that it's a process it will take a long time. Yes, I live in my fathers house, but we barely speak, and I harbor so my anger toward him that sometimes I cant talk to him because I dont know what awful words could come out of my mouth. Yes, I know. It's hard. BPD symptoms can include complex and unhealthy thought processes, anxiety, poor self-image, and dramatic mood swings. I so desperately want you to understand. The last incident was only a week ago and it took two days and me apologising in the end in order to solve the problem. That is wonderful. | Thank you for sharing especially during your own struggles. I love them so much but I am so lost. 4. Click to enable/disable essential site cookies. Imagine the most intense feeling you have ever had in your life. "People with BPD are like people with third degree burns over 90% of their bodies. Harder than playing the guitar to 3000 people. She told me about the family events she's been dealing with lately and we talked a bit through some of those, as well as a source of panic she doesn't seem ready to talk about.. If you have BPD, you may have had work experiences that upset you, the people who worked with you, or both. She loves her, she wants her to be happy, but to be verbally, emotionally and even sometimes physically abused, she can't be always 'there' for her. I tried to help her by pleading not to go back to the guy after he choked her (!!!) It wasn't untill this year, despite 15 years of being labelled, i was able to get that changed. But I want him back. Initially I thought we just fell out of love and she was unable to deal with that reality (like maybe she needed a larger reason like alcoholism or abuse rather than just drifting apart). Celebrities and Famous People With Borderline Personality Disorder. Thank you so much for sharing.You have so many people you need to reach.If only I could help in some way. Sometimes we even take on the mannerisms of other people (we are one way at work, another at home, another at church), which is part of how weve gotten our nickname of chameleons. Sure, people act differently at home and at work, but you might not recognize us by the way we behave at work versus at home. However, it's my belief that the letter does little to help the children of borderlines. It is inspiring and a ray of light to those of us who have a loved one with BPD to remind us that is just an aspect that can be overcommed to let us live in full the beauty of life. If you had told me 10 yrs ago I would be happily married and eventually become a mother I would have given you the finger and told you to shut the F up. Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a mental health issue that causes emotional instability and can affect how people manage their moods and interact with other people. I can only hope with every breath in my body that she can be 'cured' and live a normal and happy life. Live life to the fullest. 50 reviews of McLean Hospital "You know what? We may avoid you, not answer calls, and decline invitations to be around you and other times, all we want to do is be around you. I'm on many meds. But she arrived the next day with a police office to remove, most, but not all of her remaining stuff. My significant other felt the same way as yours that therapy was a waste of time and money, until I finally showed progress and began getting better through DBT. I am so sorry that you are suffering as a result of your sister's behavior. It lays out the facts while giving room for the Non in the person with BPD's life options. Needing Constant Reassurance or Validation "I ask for reassurance because I worry I'm miscommunicating or misinterpreting someone. I don't see what that has to do with anything. a pattern of tumultuous relationships with friends, family and loved ones. I would be very pleased to share it with you. A Brief Look at My Life with Borderline Personality Disorder. I want nothing more than get back with her but I dont know how to convey that I love her, that I would fully support her if she would be willing to explore and face this and wont leave. Dear people, I have a professional translation of the letter in Dutch. Furthermore, this grandparent generally claims to be perfectly well and claims that there is something wrong with all the rest of us. My wife says she is learning a lot but she is still barking orders and yelling and telling me I am not doing things right on her behalf. I am sorry you were scared. Somewhere between 1.6% and 5.9% of adults in the US have BPD, a personality disorder that's characterized by difficulty regulating emotion. People with BPD typically have very strong emotional responses to events that seem minor to observers. An open letter to family and friends regarding the person they know with Borderline Personality Disorder, Manipulative, attention-seeking, dramatic, broken, crazy. But working also adds more stressors to an already stressed out life. After finally being diagnosed with BPD after hospital stays, hurting multiple people, trying med after med and more. Intense Emotions: When Present Events Trigger Past Trauma. I am sorry I was selfish. I think that one if the distinct differences in the diagnosis is the willingness to show vulnerability. People with BPD have extreme mood swings, unstable relationships and trouble controlling their emotions. You can now share your poetry (or poetry you love) by using the hashtag #MightyPoets. Needless to say, it hasn't been easy for either of us. It brought tears to my eyes. Hi Healing from BPD-What a great letter! On the other side of the coin, we may have outburst of anger that can be scary. She read some of your other posts and she said she could see a lot of similarities between us. I truly believe that I will never get better, because I am surrounded by negative people with negative feelings toward me that I then reciprocate toward them. I've had some, don't get me wrong, just nothing that's helped long-termand now that I *think* bpd hits the nail on the head, it just happens to be this mysterious, new labeland of course no one can see it. I hope that my ex gets better. Terms. Take care allTim. Starting therapy can be daunting, and the person needs to make the decision for themselves, but your letter, and other people's experinces here can inspire hope in others, and help them through difficult times. Reading also helps me manage my own destructive thoughts and feelings. A normal life can be had. Pain that is triggered through attempts to be emotionally intimate with someone else. We were always extremely close, until she got involved in a highly stressful abusive relationship. And most importantly, maybe I had a chance to get better. Maybe we should bandage our heads and hearts. These cookies are strictly necessary to provide you with services available through our website and to use some of its features. There are ups and downs for everyone, mentally healthy or not. I suspect that my ex-wife is BPD, but I am at a loss to deal with it because she is completely unaware. I mean, I know that makes me sound selfishand I am a lot more than I used to be. I am sorry that my borderline personality disorder (BPD) got in the way of our family and us. Every single time you embrace my stable days when I'm the peachiest version of me you ever get to experience. It will take time and a lot of effort. I am so torn. I'm so proud of him that he agreed very graciously to attend and learn these skills. I read The Art of Asking by my favorite artist Amanda Palmer, and it was absolutely wonderful. . "It was a sort of love few other people could understand. She remained in a crisis unit for two weeks without any contact. I made it though, and I now know that I have so much to offer to my future clients because of my own experience with mental illnesses. Not all of the situations I described apply to all people with Borderline Personality Disorder. Don't write her off. I am about to go to my brothers wedding and a ton of my family will be there. The best thing we can do during these times is remind ourselves that this too shall pass and practice DBT skills especially self-soothing things that helps us to feel a little better despite the numbness. We may do very dramatic things, such as harming ourselves in some way (or threatening to do so), going to the hospital, or something similar. It's kind of just an awesome miracle that I've come as far as I have. That with the right kind of help and support you can build a 'life worth living'. I read your letter Debbie and most of the post. Why is it that my therapists tell me that BPD is a useless diagnosis that doesn't do anyone any good, yet I fall into nearly every criteria for the disorder and have since I was a teenager? You are a source of admiration, thanks for your courage and generous words. I wanted to throw in the towel and give up on life. That is what a fight with a loved one feels like, or how intensely they can feel love for a single person. Arlington, VA 22203, NAMI Required Disclosures For Written Solicitations. Everything in it's perfect timing. The right kind of help. My own experience with my BPD mother was one in which my father, siblings and I were often blamed for her erratic behavior and unstable feelings. What you have written here is one of the most accurate and personable depictions of BPD, it gives way to understanding and hope. Shows that YES there is hope and not only have you found it but, you have it held tightly in your grasp!! Now that I know she has BPD, it is too late for me to do anything more to help her. I do love him and I am asking the Lord to help me help him. That said, it makes sense that people occasionally need to set boundaries with us. I just love this letter. This was very well thought out and appreciated. Its that extreme. I handle things differently thru all the therapy and med changesI still wish it to go away..since now have Bipolar tendencies and PTSD isn't this all pretty much the same stuff and the rollercoaster is ongoing? Thanks for commenting. Explore the different options for supporting our mission. Her idea of help is everyone doing what she wants, on her schedule. I hope that everything works out in your favor. I have successfully alienated my oldest who is 12 and see how my behaviors are effecting my youngest who is 7. It's seriously messed up. I have grown up loving my mother who struggles with BPD. Just a thought. I work from home. Thank you, and best wishes for the future. And for all those who DO deserve to be helped, be allowed to heal, and their loved ones who deserve to be supported, thank you for sharing this letter that might help them all live better together and individually. I have done everything that I know to do for the past 28 years. BPD, Ghosting, and Abandonment Issues WHEN A PERSON WITH BPD IS GHOSTED It can be incredibly difficult when someone suddenly disappears or "ghosts" from your life especially once you've risked your heart, allowed yourself to be vulnerable, and have become emotionally attached or invested. It is possible that something that you said or did triggered us. Another thing you may have noticed is that spaced out look on our faces. I have spent a lot of money and resources to help her in every way, only to be treated like trash. My ex is a very convincing and extremely intelligent person. My dad likely has BPD too because my mother lived through 30 years of marriage with this. Dr. Marsha Linehan, founder of DBT, likens us to 3rd degree emotional burn victims. I have beeen through 3 years of DBT therapy and figuring out who i am and how i came to have this horrible disorder. You are not the cause of our suffering. This insidious illness is as we know is the relationship killer. Not someone with questionable actions in their past. She acts more like she's about 16 most of the time. When crises occur, family members can help achieve emotional stability by encouraging slow breathing to reduce pressure. Mind Australia Borderline Personality Disorder Family and Carer Group. It's a commitment, but I fully intend to be there for her and listen and work through it when she's ready. This is an extreemly complicated disorder. Currently, my BPD symptoms are worsening. All of this is new to me, just as it is with so many others, and as much as I would love the help of regular therapy I know that I have to help myself - but it is HARD. You don't have to be completely "healed" to pursue your dreams. Yeah, I love hating my life and feeling like I've waste most of it and being almost 40 and feeling like a teenager. Check this out. Unfortunately, many kids of BPD's become BPD themselves because they learn the thought patterns, behaviors, and unstable feelings as a normal way to be. I just wish more people were aware of how damaging the things they say really are to anyone with any kind of mental illness. Just try.Won't work. Dear *My Name*, I wanted to write you and tell you that I'm sorry I couldn't (or didn't) make it work with you. I did get committed here. Thank you, and may the knowledge you acquire now help you to build a life worth living from here and forward. I held on to you so tightly then, and I still do now because, to me, you are the answer, you are the only person in the world. When I was told what it was, I went home and researched everything I could about it. From someone that has been through it it means a lot. Smiles, Well here goes. The disregard/disbelief. I may feel hopeless, but I dont want other people to. This blog is a torment to me because it makes me think he could change. On the resources page of. Today I turned 47 and I feel like I am 77. It's a long road we all will travel. These cookies collect information that is used either in aggregate form to help us understand how our website is being used or how effective our marketing campaigns are, or to help us customize our website and application for you in order to enhance your experience. She also has recently gotten more busy and a tighter finical situation. 4301 Wilson Blvd., Suite 300 My belief in it is fading. Thank you for writing this. Thank you so much for this letter. Debbie. Click to enable/disable Google reCaptcha. BPD expert and author, Randi Kreger, likens it to "having 'aural dyslexia,' in which they hear words and sentences backwards, inside out, sideways, and devoid of context.". I would love if you linked to this post from your blog. At times I've felt as if, emotionally, I were being held hostage. This is an open letter to anyone willing and/or needing to listen. I am LOST! And now with this kind, loving man by my side I feel comfortableand so he gets the wrath of this chaotic mind. I worked as part of a DBT team during the last few years before my retirement. I would have missed my little princess daughter, missed my husband, missed out on my "recovery". I have struggled with relationships. People just don't "believe" in it and long-term mental illnesses. Remember that your words, love, and support go a long way in helping your loved one to heal, even if the results are not immediately evident. I got itchy, restless, looking for distractions to avoid looking at myself, my escalating issues, facing the things I didnt understand and trying to fill the void when you werent there. It's bloody hard work to change your whole life and how you live it. She blew up, tore into me for a good 30 minutes before breaking up with meshe breaks up every time she gets mad, then acts as though it had never happened a few hours later, or the next day). 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